Welcome to Eros Events, where fun, connection, and empowerment come together. Whether it’s your first time or you’re a returning guest, this guide answers your most common questions to help you feel confident and prepared for the experience ahead.

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What can we expect at an Eros Event?

At Eros Events, our priority is creating a fun, relaxed, and supportive atmosphere where everyone feels welcome. Whether you’re brand new or a seasoned attendee, you’ll find a space designed for connection, exploration, and enjoyment - free from pressure or judgment.

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There’s no obligation to engage in sexual activities. Many guests simply enjoy socialising or observing respectfully, always with consent. For those who wish to explore further, our events provide a safe and welcoming space to let go of inhibitions at your own pace.

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Expect a vibrant, themed atmosphere where respect and consent are central, and connections are authentic.

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How do you curate your guest list?

Our events welcome approved couples (M/F or F/F), single females, and very select single males.

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​Our age range is 20-45, but we may consider those outside this range who meet our high standards. However, due to the nature of our events, not all applicants will be selected. Priority is given to prior approved applicants and returning attendees.

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We prioritise intelligence, charisma, discretion, and respectful behaviour to foster an environment where mutual attraction and comfort are key.

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What is your application and vetting process?

We pride ourselves on curating a high-quality community that aligns with the values and atmosphere of our events.

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Here’s how it works:

• Start with our online application form, where we ask about your experience, understanding of etiquette, and what draws you to our events.

• Share a link to a platform like Kiwiswingers, Fetlife, or Instagram. This helps us get a sense of your personality and fit within the community.

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We carefully evaluate communication style, appearance, charisma, and references to ensure all guests contribute positively to the event atmosphere.

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Please note: Submitting an application doesn’t guarantee approval. We select attendees based on compatibility with our community standards.​

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What if I haven’t heard back since submitting my application?

We strive to review applications as quickly as possible, but if you haven’t heard back yet, don’t worry - it’s not necessarily a no! 

 

Here’s what to do:

1. IMPORTANT! Check your inbox and spam/junk folders to make sure you haven’t missed an email. Almost everyone who contacts us to say they have'n't heard from us, finds our purchase link email in their junk folder.

2. Be patient. Depending on the volume of applications and vetting required, it might take us some time to process your application.

3. Follow up. If it’s been more than 3 business days, feel free to reach out to info@erosevents.co.nz for an update.

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What about single males?

Unfortunately, we've seen too many instances where single males fail to integrate, linger in play areas, and disrupt the experience of others - so we no longer allow single males to attend solo.

Upon passing the vetting process, single males must meet the following criteria to join our events:

•⁠  ⁠Have solid vouches from trusted members within our community, and

•⁠  ⁠Be accompanied by a female partner.

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Confidence, charisma, and respectful behaviour are essential.​​​

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By upholding these standards, we ensure every guest enjoys a comfortable and empowering event in a welcoming atmosphere where everyone feels respected.

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How should we dress?

Dressing to impress is part of the fun at Eros Events! Each event has a unique theme, and we strongly encourage you to embrace the theme, showcase your individual style, and feel sexy and confident. 

 

For non-themed events as a general guide:

• Men: Collared shirts and suit pants.

• Women: Cocktail dresses or glam, chic outfits.

• Not allowed: T-shirts, shorts, ripped jeans, jandals, crocs, or sports trainers.

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What are the rules?

To ensure everyone has a comfortable and enjoyable time, we have a few essential guidelines:

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General Rules

• Consent is key: Always ask before initiating any interaction.

• Couples must attend willingly and leave together, even if attending as play friends.

• Single females are encouraged to bring a friend for moral support, whether female or male. (Male plus-ones may be considered as a couple depending on attendance limits.)

• Phones and recording devices are strictly prohibited in play areas.

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Event Rules

The following behaviours will not be tolerated:

• Disrespectful behaviour, including failure to take “no” for an answer.

• Excessive alcohol consumption or drug use.

• Anti-social, intimidating, or attention-seeking behaviour.

• Theft or inappropriate actions toward guests or staff.

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Guests who violate these rules may be asked to leave and will be prohibited from attending future events.

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Why do you emphasise consent so strongly?

Consent is the cornerstone of Eros Events, ensuring a safe and empowering experience for all attendees. We encourage you to read our Consent and Etiquette Policy to understand the importance of boundaries, respect, and clear communication.

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What’s on the Eros Events Resources Page?
Our Resources page is a hub of insights, tips, and inspiration designed to support everyone in the Eros Events community. Whether you’re stepping into this world for the first time or are a seasoned guest, you’ll find blog articles on navigating the lifestyle, practical advice for attendees, and essential information on consent and etiquette. Regularly updated, it’s your go-to destination for staying informed, prepared, and confident on your journey with us.

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What should I do if I haven’t received my pre-party email?

If you haven’t received your pre-party email 48 hours before the event, please check your spam or junk folders. If it’s still missing, email us at info@erosevents.co.nz, and we’ll provide you with the details.

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How can I share my experience?

We love hearing from our attendees! If you’d like to share your experience anonymously, we’ve added a Resources section to our website. Select stories will be featured, offering inspiration and insights for our growing community.

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At Eros Events, we’re dedicated to creating a space where connection, exploration, and fun thrive. We look forward to welcoming you and making every event an unforgettable experience.

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For more information or for specific questions not covered here, email us at  info@erosevents.co.nz

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